I have an invitation for you. Are you willing to use a simple self-help tool a minimum of five times a day for the next three days so that you can discover its extraordinary effects? This tool will not only help you de-stress and switch to a relaxed, balanced and creative state of mind in under a minute, but also help you access and experience your true nature as spacious awareness. When used consistently it has the potential to deepen and accelerate your journey towards emotional balance, true happiness and spiritual awakening. But please whatever you do, don’t believe me, find out the truth for yourself!
I’ve spent the last ten years of my professional career exploring what really works when it comes to lasting personal change. Slow thought defusion, the tool I’m about to introduce you to is taken from my holistic personal development system The Freedom Process. My sincere hope is that it will demonstrate to you that in any given moment you choose your experience of reality according to the way you relate to reality. You are so much more than you think you are. You are not your thoughts or your emotions. Who are you? You are the awareness in which those thoughts and emotions are arising – you are what I call the true Self. The true Self is the master key to inner peace, true happiness and a truly fulfilling life. Let’s meet your true Self by using the slow thought defusion tool.
Slow Thought Defusion
Think of a situation that you are feeling stressed about. Notice the thoughts that you are having about that situation and find a short sentence that encapsulates the essence of what it is that you are stressed about – for example ‘there is no way I’ll get this work done on time’. Now do the following:
- Drop your attention into the lower part of your abdomen (just a couple of centimetres below your navel) and keep your attention their throughout
- Now say the sentence very slowly and out loud, (if you are in a public place you can do it in your head – but it is even better if done out loud). There should be at least five seconds gap between each word. As you do this breath gently and THIS IS THE KEY keep your attention on the space in between each thought.
- If you notice your mind trying to rush things (which it tends to do!) just allow an even longer gap between each word.
- Now repeat this whole process two more times and having done so, notice what has changed about your experience. How do you feel? How do you now feel about the ‘problem’?
90% of the time people use slow thought defusion an extraordinary thing happens – they shift from identifying with a stressful thought to experiencing a sense of balance, spaciousness and calm – the true Self. Notice how when you are aligned with the true Self it transforms the way you feel and transforms your perspective on whatever the original situation or issue was! Notice how relative to the issue you feel so much more powerful. If you choose to do so and whilst resting in this state of balance and awareness (the true Self), ask yourself this question: what do I need to do to address this issue (whatever the stressful issue was)? More often than not one of two responses will arise, either the ‘problem’ is seen for what it was ‘just thoughts’ or you’ll just know how to deal with it in a practical, balanced and efficient way.
The truth is this – we were never supposed to believe everything we think! One of the fundamental skills for conscious living and personal development is choosing what to believe and what not to. What’s more as you start to live in alignment with the true Self life starts to unfold in incredible and often unexpected ways – its one of the master keys to living an awesome life – but that’s for another article!
Peace & Blessings
Dr Mark Atkinson
Author: Mark Atkinson